STRESS RELIF AND MANAGMENT

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All stress isn’t bad. Stress can initiate change, help us focus on the task at hand, and in some cases even save our lives. Yet, when stress builds up, it can result in the opposites— and cause us to spin our wheels, keep us from concentrating, and cause bodily injury and even loss of life.
The first tip in managing stress is to recognize your stressors. The next step is to put each of them in their place. The following stress management tips, based on some old and some new adages, can help you do just that!
Take a Deep Breath and Count to Ten—Taking a deep breath or two adds oxygen to your system, which almost instantly helps you relax. In addition, taking a moment to step back can help you maintain your composure, which in the long run, is what you need to work rationally through a stressful situation.
Start with “take a deep breath” and…
1. Count to ten (or more or less as the situation warrants!)2. Stand up and stretch. Remember relaxation is the opposite of stress.3. Stand up and smile. Try it! You’ll feel better!4. Take a short walk. If you’re at work, take a bathroom break or get a glass of water. Do something that changes your focus. When you come back to the problem, chances are it won’t seem nearly as insurmountable.5. In the book Gone With the Wind, Scarlett O’hara says, “I can’t think about that right now. If I do, I’ll go crazy. I’ll think about that tomorrow.” Good advice!
Stop and Smell the Roses—“Things happen” and sometimes “bad things happen to good people”. If we let them, stressful events can build up, wall us in, and eventually stop us from enjoying the good things in life.
1. Take the time. Too often we put the pleasantries of life on the back burner, telling ourselves we don’t “have time” or can’t “make time” for them. However, actually, time is the only thing we do completely own. While we can’t “make” a day that’s longer than 24 hours, each of us starts the day with exactly that amount of time. Take a part of your time to recognize the good things in your life.2. Sleep on it. Every coin has two sides and every issue has both pros and cons. List them both then put the list away and take a second look tomorrow. Sometimes “sleeping on” a situation changes the minuses to pluses.3. Every cloud has a silver lining. After all, rain makes things grow! Ben Franklin found good in a bolt of lightning. Find the good in your stressful situation by listing the negative surges and determining what it will take to make them into positive charges!
“A Man’s Got to Know His Limitations—”Knowing yourself and your limits may be the most important way to manage stress effectively.
1. Dare to say no. One more little thing may be the “straw that breaks the camel’s back”. It’s okay to say “No”, “I can’t”, or “Later”.2. Acquit yourself. Sometimes events really are out of control and you really are “Not Guilty”. Quit blaming yourself.3. Be pro-active in finding peace. Those who unsuccessfully use the crutches of drugs and/or alcohol to alleviate stress often find themselves in a twelve-step program like A.A. where one of the mainstays is the Serenity Prayer:
“God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; The Courage to change the things I can; and the Wisdom to know the difference.”
4. When you need help, get help. Even Atlas couldn’t bear the weight of the world on his shoulders forever. Whether you need help from kids or spouse in hauling groceries into the house, help from a colleague to solve a work-related problem, or professional help to find the causes of and effectively manage your stress, getting the help you need is in itself a major stress management tip!
Other Tips
* Get a good night’s rest.* Eat healthily.* Listen to your favorite music.* Exercise, participate in a sport or engage in fun activity.* Plan out your time and prioritize.* Talk to a friend about your problems, don’t hold it in.* Get a massage.* Take a nap.* Take a warm bath.* Read a book or watch TV.

KEEP UR Husband happy

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There are many women who are asking themselves ‘how do I get know my husband better’. They are looking for advice from anywhere and usually end up still being confused. The truth is that this article is the right one for you, only if you are sure, your husband still loves you.Step1:When you want to talk to him there are appropriate times and then there are some times that you do not want to talk to him. When he is tired, he will not willing to listen but wants to rest. Another time is when he is watching TV, especially a major sporting event.Step2:The best time to speak with your husband about important things is after a meal. He will be in good mood to talk and you can use this opportunity to speak with him.Step3:Don’t think your husband can replace your female friends or he will be exactly the same person as he was before the marriage. If you want to discuss some personal problems about hardships you meet in your marriage, you’d better do this with your good friend or even a professional.Step4:Compliment your husband about the way he provides for your family. Listen to him, when he speaks. Be his friend. And support his decisions. Friendship in marriage is a very good basis for a long term relationship. Try to understand him, even if this seems hard for you.Step5:Create a cozy and good for rest environment in your place. Learn several recipes that your husband like to prepare for him. Be more relaxed around him and use your sense of humor to chase his stress away. When your husband look at your pretty smiling face, he will feel a very lucky man.

HOW TO LIVE A GOOD HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE

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HOW TO LIVE GOOD HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE

It has been found that maximum love life of a couple is only 30 months. After this period marriage life becomes a routine and a habit. In brief if you want to keep your marriage life full of love and feelings, follow the given tips.
1. Renew the RomanceTake a pledge that you will never allow the romance of your life die. Be romantic with your beloved one till the last breath of life. Old-fashioned romance still has value. Bring flowers, buy a gift, go out for dinner, watch a movie, cook together - there are dozens of ways which can keep your heart mesmerizing.
2. KissingIt means kissing your partner when it is least expected. Kiss even if your partner becomes angry. Don’t be too nice every time otherwise spice will be out of your life. Sudden kisses excite the feelings and enthuse the mind. Just try.
3. Say I Love YouAs the time passes both husband and wife get busy with the demands of their life and start forgetting how they tried impress each other in the beginning period. They also forget to say ‘I love you’ to each other. These three words are a wonderful way to keep the old feelings alive to some extent.
4. Eat TogetherNever eat alone unless your profession compels you. Try your best to adjust your timings in such a way that you are able to eat with each other more often. It helps to keep the bond strong. Now and then also plan to eat outside, in a restaurant or hotel.
5. Be FriendsDon’t always treat each other like husband and wife. It becomes a boring routine. Sometimes it is necessary to sit and discuss like friends. Share views on various topics and have healthy debates. Life then certainly becomes more enjoyable.
6. Be MysteriousIn spite of being good friends a touch of mystery in the relations adds thrill to it. Never talk like children - always speaking whatever is there in your heart. Now and then keep silence, talk less and study books or watch TV alone. It will improve the quality of your relations.
7. Cooperate At HomeYou need to be cooperative at home. Cook, clean and wash with your partner. When you share the household work-load you bring new joys in the relationship. It enhances your image in the mind of your partner. You become more attractive.

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When you have a new baby, routines fly out the window.
Babies have their own time clocks, especially for the first six weeks or so.
Family and friends may suggest getting your baby to eat, sleep and play at regular times. Babies have their own ideas about all this!
It takes time for a pattern to develop and it will be your baby’s pattern.
Try not to compare your baby with others - they are all different.
Trying to organise the needs of everyone is sometimes very difficult. Newborn babies are very demanding. Sometimes baby’s needs must come first but you’ll also have to think of others in the family.
Some give and take is needed in any family.
Some parents get upset because they think their baby is being naughty.
Punishments are useless, baby’s crying or ‘misbehaviour’ is an expression of a need - they may be hungry, have a dirty nappy or a pain.
Babies are not deliberately naughty, they need love, comfort and tender loving care.

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Homework Problems:1- Performs below his or her potential at school2- Has average or better intelligence, with no learning disabilities3- Doesn’t finish schoolwork or homework4- “Forgets,” loses, or doesn’t turn in finished homework5- “Doesn’t remember” what parents have taught6- Gets poor report card7- Doesn’t want any help
Some children develop bad habits with their homework because they become preoccupied with TV programs or video games. Some middle school children become sidetracked by their hormones or by sports. Other children who find schoolwork difficult would simply rather play. If parents help these children cut back other activities to reasonable amounts and count on the teacher to grade the child’s efforts on schoolwork and homework, most of these children will improve. Motivation for good grades eventually comes from a desire to please the teacher and be admired by peers, enjoyment in knowing things, the ability to see studying as a pathway to a future career, knowledge that she needs an above average grade point to be accepted into college, and wanting to achieve her goals and improve should she fall short of those goals.
When parents over respond to this behavior and exert pressure for better performance, they can start a power struggle around schoolwork. “Forgetfulness” becomes a game. The child sees the parents’ pressure as a threat to his independence. More pressure brings more resistance. Poor grades become the child’s best way of proving that he is independent of his parents and that he can’t he pushed. Good evidence for this is the child does worse in the areas where he receives the most help. If parental interference with a child’s schoolwork continues for several years, the child becomes a school “underachiever”.
Helping your child regain responsibility for schoolwork1.Get out of the middle regarding homework2.Coordinate your plan with your child’s teacher.3.Limit TV until schoolwork improves.4.Consider adding incentives for improved school work5.Consider removing other privileges for falloff in school work.