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Homework Problems:1- Performs below his or her potential at school2- Has average or better intelligence, with no learning disabilities3- Doesn’t finish schoolwork or homework4- “Forgets,” loses, or doesn’t turn in finished homework5- “Doesn’t remember” what parents have taught6- Gets poor report card7- Doesn’t want any help
Some children develop bad habits with their homework because they become preoccupied with TV programs or video games. Some middle school children become sidetracked by their hormones or by sports. Other children who find schoolwork difficult would simply rather play. If parents help these children cut back other activities to reasonable amounts and count on the teacher to grade the child’s efforts on schoolwork and homework, most of these children will improve. Motivation for good grades eventually comes from a desire to please the teacher and be admired by peers, enjoyment in knowing things, the ability to see studying as a pathway to a future career, knowledge that she needs an above average grade point to be accepted into college, and wanting to achieve her goals and improve should she fall short of those goals.
When parents over respond to this behavior and exert pressure for better performance, they can start a power struggle around schoolwork. “Forgetfulness” becomes a game. The child sees the parents’ pressure as a threat to his independence. More pressure brings more resistance. Poor grades become the child’s best way of proving that he is independent of his parents and that he can’t he pushed. Good evidence for this is the child does worse in the areas where he receives the most help. If parental interference with a child’s schoolwork continues for several years, the child becomes a school “underachiever”.
Helping your child regain responsibility for schoolwork1.Get out of the middle regarding homework2.Coordinate your plan with your child’s teacher.3.Limit TV until schoolwork improves.4.Consider adding incentives for improved school work5.Consider removing other privileges for falloff in school work.